Are You Looking and Not Seeing?

Do you see your surroundings or are you spending too much time in your head…?

I knew I was spending too much time in my head when, upon returning from a recent walk, I had no recollection of my surroundings during my walk.

With the constant distraction of technological gadgets, I’m missing things.  There is no stop to multi-tasking all day long.  Are you trying to figure out your place in this conversion of human beings with technology?  As we are asked to do more with less time, are we doing everything well?

Recently I reserved some time to compose a letter. I proofed it and sent it out. The next day, the recipient pointed out a very important missing item – that I never should have missed.  

It was obvious. I was not present when I wrote the letter (even though I thought I was). Lots of other thoughts were filtering through my head -- not to mention texts and emails and calls. How did I allow myself on the hampster wheel when I tell everyone to watch out for it?

So, before I start in on something new, I am choosing to close my eyes and say, “This is what I am focusing on now.”  

I am consciously slowing down, organizing ideas and prioritizing; making realistic goals before moving forward. The work, the errands and the schedules will always be there.

Be present in all you do. By turning off all of the excess noise and distractions, the time we have is spent more wisely and we spend less time correcting our careless mistakes.

Why Do We Complain So Much?

It seems that everywhere I turn, I hear complaining – especially from the media. Did you know that complaining is really about projecting failure? Complaining doesn’t get us anywhere. In fact, it is counterproductive. Ever notice that when one person complains about someone or something, it opens the door for everyone to complain?

Encouragement, on the other hand, shifts the depth of one’s belief and allows you to not get “stuck in someone else’s mud.”

How does one turn a complaint into something to be thankful for?

Recently, I went to a birthday party. It was a “big milestone” birthday, and preparations were in the works for weeks. The ladies purchased outfits with a glorious sunset and perfect temperatures in mind. Well, the only trouble was, it was February, and you can’t control the weather in February. The birthday day arrived, and it was non stop rain --all day and into the evening. There was no sunset. No breeze. It was raining cats and dogs.

To my relief, the host did not cancel the party. When I arrived at the restaurant, I ducked into the bathroom to dry off, only to find several other like-minded women. I I wonder if you can imagine the din of complaints. “I’m soaked through!” “My shoes are absolutely ruined!” “What a terrible day for a party!” I didn’t know these women, and I wasn’t even sure if they were there for the party, but I started to hand out paper towels from the dispenser. I complimented all of them on how gorgeous they looked with words of encouragement about the location and the fabulous dining experience we were going to have.  I reminded them of the beauty of the rain after such a long drought. What did I do? I invited happy. And as we whisked away raindrops and make-up was reapplied, the mood changed. Mindsets shifted. We all started smiling and laughing.

There is a bigger reason for what we do every day.  And this birthday was about something bigger than a pair of soggy shoes!

Encouraging others to be thankful and to think positive is contagious.

You can always choose if you want to be positive or negative. I always chose positive.

Handling Transition

From a post industrial society to a highly technological society

From childhood to adulthood

From beginning or ending a relationship

From employee to manager

From working life to retirement

From health through illness—and back again

We live transition. Every day. On a big scale and on a very personal scale. And, the first transition I talk about on this list is probably having the most impact on how well we cope (or not) with the transitions in our personal lives.

The more people I talk to, I realize that no one really talks about how to adjust or prepare for transition that is constantly swirling around us. Is it because it’s so constant, we just wade through it?

There is an important conversation to be had. This high-tech society in which we live gives us less and less time to stop and ponder when what we really need is to give ourselves the permission to take our time as we walk through the transitions of life.

Over time, I’ve learned that a transition works ONLY when we accept in advance that our calendars are going to change. A transition is going to change your timing in life. Accepting a promotion, for example, means you are going to have to take some steps away from your own time.  Transition means that your whole “person” is changing along with it.

People don’t talk about the emotional changes – the anxiety, uncertainty, instability, and the loss. You will, no doubt, need to prepare and let go of some things to invite that transition into your life in a positive way.

Talk about it.

Give yourself time.

Process it – emotions and all.

How do you welcome something new into your life?

Storytelling as Language

“A true storyteller believes in what they are sharing and what they are doing.  When you listen to others and learn about their stories, you are better able to develop a more fruitful relationship with a client.” – Ssusan Forte O’Neill

We all love a good story. In fact, we’ve been telling stories for centuries – long before the written word. Yet, today, I am hard pressed to find individuals who can tell their story. Why is it such an important skill? Being a good storyteller is good for business.

Whether it is your company or you’re an employee moving up the ranks, you should know the company story by rote. It should roll off your tongue. Practice it regularly – along with your own story. You never know when, but you will inevitably be called upon to succinctly, charismatically describe yourself and/or your work. Are you able to do this in a room full of people, and captivate them, just as our elders did seated around a camp fire?

1) Know your product and know your product’s story.

2) Believe in what you do. When you don’t believe it what you do, telling your story is difficult.

3) Telling a story, genuinely, triggers empathy. Eloquence, creativity and critical-thinking are audible and translate positively—and immediately—in any presentation. The more you practice, the more you recognize the cues that others are engaging with, and relating to, what you are trying to communicate.

4 ) Prepare & listen. If you are meeting a new client, always, always, always do your homework. Learn as much as you can about their story. And, when you are there, in front of them, ask them to tell it to you, and listen. Really listen.  You are establishing a relationship whenever you engage with anyone – be it a room full of people or during a one-on-one meeting.